“I am happy to have made this decision”
A Nigerian lawyer, Olasumbo, has taken to Twitter to share before and after photos showing her incredible transformation six years after leaving her marriage with her two children.
The 30-year-old mother-of-two shared her story via Twitter when she celebrated Mother’s Day on Sunday, March 19, 2023.
“This is what I looked like when I walked out of my 2017 wedding with two toddlers. I just scored 30, I was mentally, emotionally and financially drained. I was tired and knew I had to leave. Did I know what I was going to do next? No but I walked,” she wrote.
“Okay let me tell you why this sounds shit I left my marriage with no idea what to do next but I knew I had to run for my life but I didn’t I have no family support. I was not lucky enough to come from a stable family background, my ex saw it and took advantage of it.
“The marriage was 4 years old when it officially ended, but it was dead from the start. I know the judges will ask me if I haven’t seen the red flag…well the story for a another day but hey the deed was done and now I have two children who have had no fault.
“My whole desire was to protect my children. I mean they don’t know anything about the madness and stupidity of the parents who gave birth to them. I saved up and got my own apartment. I remember crying so much the first night I moved into my new home, I was scared.
“I had never done this kind of trip before and I don’t know how to take this path. I was totally confused and distraught. I was more afraid for my children, afraid that they would suffer, which I don’t want not, what if they get sick and I can’t take care of them?
“This was all in 2017…it’s 2023 and yes it hasn’t been a smooth journey…my life took a break because I wasn’t convenient to have family support and I had to learn, unlearn and relearn on my own. My career suffered so much. Yes.
“My wants, my wants have all been pushed to the bottom because I can’t afford everything at once, so my kids come first…it hasn’t been easy doing this on my own, no one only financial support from the man who carried them even though he has 100% access to these children.
“I look back today and wonder if it was all worth it and yes, I’m glad I made this decision. I’m proud of the pains, the tears, the laughter. I’m proud to stand strong despite the stigma and backlash that comes with being a single mom. HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ME.”
